Complain Complain – Which Train for Your Brain?
March 16, 2010
Complain complain, which train for your brain? That’s a nice little rhyme to say – which way do you want your thinking to go? Today, tomorrow and always.
Lately I feel like I’ve been hearing a lot of complaining. Here are some of the recent complaints I’ve heard in random order with my comments included:
- “Oh I hate the snow and wish it was spring.“ Wait a minute, isn’t it supposed to snow in the winter or am I confused?
- “I hate technology and wish it would go away” – You can hate it but it ain’t going away. I used to hate it too but that doesn’t help. In fact if you notice carefully that ‘horrible technology is actually providing the very link for you to read this.
- A general life is so hard - Yes life today is really hard. I am in total agreement of that and yet we have untapped resources inside of us that can be generated in times. So what is our focus? Life is hard or I am resilient?
Now I’m not saying that these isn’t a lot of reason to complain. We live in particularly difficult times, but the point is this – what really changes by complaining about it?
You already know the answer – nothing, nada, niente. Three different ways to say a big fat NOTHING.
Nothing changes when we complain. Well that’s not exactly true. A lot of changes happen but not the ones that we really want.
Here’s what does change when you complain:
- your heart rate excelerates
- your blood pressure goes up
- your mood dampens
- your depression meter just shot through the roof.
So my question to you (and myself) is – are those the changes that you want? If the answer is a big fat NO then here’s what to do instead.
- Feel your complaint whatever it is. First step is to ‘hear’ it and feel it inside. Then say to yourself – What can I do about it?
- Sometimes there is nothing to do about the complaint. Sometimes it’s more about – What else can I focus on that is good, beautiful and right here now?
- Be kind to others. This sounds strange and out of left field. How does being kind to others relate to not complaining. Well when you are kind and caring to others guess where your focus is? Not on yourself! Ah, that’s anti-complaining at it’s best. So ask yourself – Who needs me right now and who can I help.
In short, we can use ALL of the things that feel screwed up in our lives to make a better world. In fact that is our only chance for happiness.
There is absolutely no fixing this world. It is as it is and we must adapt. Not in a negative way but towards our greatness.
Today see how you can retrain your brain and get on the A-train towards happiness, fulfillment and dare I say it – joy!
Ah, now that wasn’t so hard was it? Get out there and share yourself today – love people, do more, be silent and witness the beauty of life going by.
Yours in getting on the right train,
Annie
p.s just so you know – I’m taking my own advice on this as well!
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Great advice! And I love the rhyme at the beginning!
Life is GREAT… “Got a roof over my head and the woman I LOVE sleeping in my bed”…(Darius Rucker/Former lead singer Hootie and the blowfish)
Best to you Annie! Brian-